Frequently Asked Questions

How to Treat Depression Naturally?

Depressed people always feel guilty about his or her past. A depressed person wants to detach from the world. Sometimes they think they are hopeless and can get relief from their pain through committing suicide. For depression, there are two types of treatment.

  1. Psychological treatment and
  2. Medication

Psychological treatment is a natural and effective way to treat depression. Most popular and effective psychological treatments include:

  1. Cognitive Behavior treatment (CBT)
  2. Behavior Therapy
  3. Counseling (talk therapy)
  4. Dialectical Behavior Therapy
  5. Emotionally Focused Therapy
  6. Solution-Focused Brief Therapy
  7. Transitional Therapy (TA)
  8. Mindfulness meditation.

The above therapies can be applied by a mental health professional like a clinical psychologist, counseling psychologist, psychiatrist, etc.

Antidepressant medication is the treatment of choice for moderate to severe depression. Early recognition and intervention in an acute episode of depression may not only save a patient month of pain and disability but may also save his or her life.

When selecting an antidepressant agent, the doctor will consider both short- and long-term treatment issues. For example, short-term considerations of treatment address issues such as anxiety, sleep disturbance, and sexual dysfunction.

Dealing with these difficult symptoms, commonly associated with depression, will help the doctor manage the long-term issue of compliance. Prior to selecting an antidepressant, the doctor will discuss these issues with the individual.

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What is meant by Cognitive Psychology?

Cognitive Psychology involves the way we think about things since cognition means thinking.

Dr. Arnold Lazurus, who developed Multimodal Therapy, says that as human beings we can react in any or all of five ways or modes. These modes are described by the acronym, “BASIC.”

In this acronym, the B stands for feelings, the A for effect or feelings, the S for sensations (such as headaches or a lump in the throat), the I stands for images, and the C relates to cognitions or thoughts. Of these five modes, I personally believe that the two most important are feelings or affects and thoughts or cognitions.

An example of the use of Cognitive Psychology is the following. A person may say in therapy that all the persons he or she could date but cannot provide any security, or are able to provide.

After being encouraged to date, the person usually comes back with the conclusion that things are not so “black or white,” but there are many shades of grey. That’s Cognitive Psychology.

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Is excessive sweating a sign of psychological problems?

The answer to this question is maybe yes and maybe no.

For some persons breaking out into a sweat may be the result of a rapid change in blood sugar level, which is more of a physical problem than a psychological one.

To diagnosis this risk, a person should discuss with a medical doctor and get a glucose tolerance test. If the glucose tolerance test is negative, a psychologist may be contacted to help determine whether the profuse sweating is the result of some psychological problem.

One example of a psychological problem associated with breaking out into a sweat is called a panic disorder. If a psychologist assesses that a person does have a panic disorder, it is important to try to deal with this problem because if it is not dealt with it is likely to get worse over time.

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How do you deal in therapy with persons who have to deal with the recent death of a loved one?

In my type of therapy, which is called “Dynamic Psychotherapy,” trying to help people take appropriate actions to move toward their goals is usually very important.

However, after the loss of a loved one, it is also experience mourning. This talking can be carried out with friends, relatives, and a therapist if necessary.

The feelings of grief which occur during this time are also accompanied by a general lethargy or desire for inactivity which makes taking appropriate actions to move on with one’s life very difficult.

After some time has passed, however, usually a period of weeks, then the person in mourning should be encouraged to begin taking on some of the activities necessary to go on with one’s life in a productive and growthful manner.

At first, carrying out these actions may be somewhat difficult, but the person should try to do so despite the lingering feelings of a desire for inactivity. After a certain period of time, it might become easy to handle the client.

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Similarities and Differences Between Canine Obedience Training and Canine Behavioral Therapy Sessions

Canine obedience training and canine behavioral training work in conjunction with each other but have both similarities, but also several differences.

Canine trainers, also known as dog trainers and/or obedience trainers teach and instruct the fundamental commands, in most cases in a class setting, for both you and your dog to learn.  The instruction is implemented with a specific strategy, verbal cues as well as body language and repetition.

As a canine behavior expert or behaviorist, I can confirm that the similarities do consist of guidance skills, body language, and strong follow-through. It’s always a major advantage to have prior training knowledge.

The difference, however, in my experience, comes from working with an individual dog’s specific problems, such as high-level fear, trust issues, phobias, etc. A plan must be made for that specific dog and family to create a new path based on prior knowledge but reconstructed to recondition a higher-end negative behavior. Every therapy session and assessment plan is different. This has to be worked from the dog’s perspective so that he or she can “meet halfway” to a resolution.

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Do you offer supervision for MHC & MFT registered interns?

We offer affordable supervision for Registered Interns in Mental Health Counseling and Marriage and Family Therapy. Our supervision adheres strictly to the Department of Professional Regulation requirements. Sometimes during the licensure process, it becomes necessary or desirable to seek supervision from a certified supervisor in private practice. Often interns may not be aware that they may register more than one supervisor with DPR during their licensure period. The following situations may stimulate interest or necessity in finding a private practice certified supervisor.

  1. It is more and more common in many agencies/facilities that interns are required to fund their own supervision.
  2. Perhaps you are a registered intern who intends to see clients in a private setting. While the private office may have a therapist on site who is qualified to provide supervision, you may not feel that it is a good fit. In that case, you may choose to seek supervision elsewhere.
  3. Occasionally you may be provided a certified supervisor in your workplace, but think that you may benefit from additional supervision from someone with a different or more extensive background. Sometimes interns may choose to identify their own personal issues as possible “blind spots” in their work (counter-transference). It is possible that interns may not feel comfortable discussing these personal issues at their workplace.

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What are the benefits of yoga training?

More and more Western medical doctors, behavioral scientists, and neuroscientists have come to believe there is a strong mind-body connection; that in many ways the mind controls the body. The East has long believed that there is also a strong connection between the breath and the mind. Thus, the mind controls your body, but the breath controls your mind.

Yoga has become one of the most popular exercises in the U.S. It is true that running gives people a “runners high” because of the tremendous amounts of endorphins released. Yoga also accomplishes this endorphin release.

However, it is reported that with yoga there is a longer sense of well-being paired with its relaxation benefits. In addition to exercise, the body gets a chance to relax. The muscles and thoughts slow down minimizing the noise constantly chattering in our heads. The practice of yoga may contribute to a decrease in stress and disease.

Yoga is a practice that was developed 5,000 years ago in India. In the U.S., we focus on the more physical part of yoga. We practice various postures and simultaneously focus on our breath. Yoga can be a complete aerobic and anaerobic exercise; yet, you will feel a greater sense of relaxation and focus after your practice.

Yoga gives us a chance to move slowly, something that is becoming more and more difficult in the age of the internet. We need to google everything. The internet speed is not fast enough for our minds.

However, healing our minds, emotions, and bodies requires slow sustained concentration. A group yoga class is not for everybody. Some of the poses may not be appropriate for someone with a particular injury. In such cases, a private yoga class may be more helpful.

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How to group therapy works

Groups of four or more people, with similar situations and or goals, can help provide the connectedness and motivation to more easily accomplish the desired outcome. The purpose of groups is to share information, ideas, and/or support.

Sometimes the purpose of a group is to inspire personal growth, a sort of reinvention of self. Often groups are designed to share information on how to best manage specific kinds of relationships. Relaxation can also be a group focus. Groups can provide a different type of energy, which can lead to creative new ideas in managing many of life’s stressors. If there is sufficient interest, we offer groups in the following areas:

  • Mindfulness
  • Parenting Teens
  • Support for Caregivers of Challenged Family Members
  • Couples Enrichment (for groups of 4 couples)
  • “Women Only” Groups on Various Topics
  • “Men Only” Groups on Various Topics
  • Intimacy and Sexuality
  • Support for LGBT Individuals and/or their Families

If there is a different topic of interest, we will do our best to accommodate you.

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Do you offer a free, “get-to-know-you” counseling session?

As soon as you walk in the door of the office, therapy begins and I begin to work with you. I do not offer free sessions, however, I will be glad to bill your insurance or Medicaid for your session. I encourage people to come in and check out how I work. If you are not sure it is a good fit, please check out other therapists. There are many counselors to choose from and many therapeutic styles. It is very important to find someone to work with who feels right to you. Therapy is less likely to be effective it doesn’t feel like a good fit.

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Will there be homework or reading assignments for psychotherapy or counseling?

Usually yes! Much of the work of being in therapy happens when you are living your life and experimenting with different ways of being, noticing how you react or respond to different situations.

One common assignment is to be “mindful,” a deliberate observation of your responses and reactions, without judgment. Developing mindful awareness during daily activities can be a powerful part of making lasting changes. These homework assignments will develop naturally from how you want your life to be different.

We will discuss them and they must be agreeable to you for them to be of benefit. Do not worry, it will not be like being in a school where you might have had to push yourself to complete assignments you were not interested in or did not want to do. We will find homework assignments that will be enjoyable and individualized for you.

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How often will we meet for psychotherapy or counseling?

You and your psychologist will discuss how frequently we will meet; this is usually based on several considerations: a. your need for support, b. your financial situation, c. where you are in our work. To begin, we might meet more frequently so that we can get to know each other better and to set up our plan for working together.


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How to help your friend who is child sexual abuse survivor?

My personal experience of child sexual abuse:

My friend Debbie was sexually abused starting at a very young age which continued for years!!!!!!!  How she survived this abuse is beyond my comprehension. She was all ALONE with this terrible ordeal as the abuser told her it was ok, then when she got older and felt this wasn’t normal she was then told no one will believe you.

Debbie was totally alone and had no one to talk to. When she tried to tell her problem no one believed her, which just reconfirmed her worst nightmare that the abuser was right, no one will believe you. To battle, this atrocity alone had to be unbearable and this little girl struggling to maintain her dignity and sanity.

As the years have gone by Debbie is a TRUE SURVIVOR. Debbie has a lot of past baggage she is still packing. It’s like a toothache it never goes away.

Debbie is a thoughtful, caring and loving lady and always has time to listen to others. Debbie has learned to be a listener because she knows what it is like to have no one listen.

I can memorize my father’s advice, “Don’t judge others until you are in their conditions”. For myself, I do not believe I could walk half a mile in Debbie’s conditions, survive and carry this burden every day.

We as a society have to be alert, listen to our children and STOP these sexual abusers. These predators are like terrorists who continue to hurt our INNOCENT CHILDREN.

My wish for Debbie is that the wind is always at her back.

Just recently Debbie was talking about her childhood sexual abuse to me. It upset me so much that it brought tears to my eyes to think she had to endure this horrible situation for years. I went home and found this poem and gave it to Debbie:

A  friend is one to whom one may pour out all the inside of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, significant that the gentlest of hands will take and sift it, stay value he/she has and with the breath of compassion, blow the rest away.

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How to keep our children safe?

It’s my opinion that we can’t keep our children in a vacuum in an attempt to keep them from experiencing painful things.  Research that I’ve read has shown that this type of parenting can cause anxiety in children.

At the same time, I think that if we pay attention to our child’s limitations and strengths we can make appropriate decisions about what to allow them to do and what to restrict them from doing.

Every child has their own unique personality and if we know our child well enough and are able to trust our instinct about our children we can steer them in the right direction.  I was not able to trust my instincts about how to keep my own son safe. 

I am parenting differently now. My son has anxiety and is afraid of the dark.  He is not able to sleep in his own bed because he fears that something bad will happen to him.

Now, I tell him that when he is able to sleep in his own bed he will be able to sleepover at a friend’s house. He gets angry about this but I have to set these boundaries for his safety and my peace of mind.

On the other hand, I do allow him to go places by himself. He started a little job in the neighborhood for himself and he made enough money to buy a phone and make the monthly payments.  He enjoys texting me when he is at the pool by himself. By giving him some independence his confidence is growing.

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How to keep mind calm?

There are various ways to keep calm your mind. You can be disturbed by your surroundings at any time and in any way.

  1. Mindfulness meditation is one of the ways to keep your mind calm.
  2. A proper time management strategy will keep your work to finish accordingly, like four-quadrant techniques, weekly routine, daily routine
  3. Learn hoy to say “NO”
  4. Communicate by NVC (Non-violent Communication) with others
  5.  Take regular physical exercise, yoga.
  6. Love your self
  7. Spend quality of time with your family
  8. Creat habit to read books
  9. Sleep early and awake early
  10. Remove screen addiction

These are some of the techniques which you can practice by yourself. If you think you can also get professional help from a psychologist.

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What is the effective ways to overcome anxiety?

When we overly thought about our future we feel anxious. Anxiety might be a couple of negative thoughts. You can follow a few tips to overcome anxiety:

  1. Explore your history of feeling anxious and worry and intensity, frequency and duration of anxiety
  2. Take regular relaxation (progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, breathing exercise)
  3. Explore the schema, self-talk, and biases challenge them with relapsing the reality-based alternative and positive self-talk which will increase your confidence
  4. Learn problem-solving strategy
  5. Mindfulness meditation might be effective tools to deal with anxiety
  6. You can take consultation, counseling or psychotherapy from a professional psychologist

These are some of the strategies that can help you to remove your anxiety.

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