For those of us with Social Anxiety, fear of failure, fear of not fitting in and fear of anything you can mention holds us back from being able to be ourselves in the workplace. We are suspicious of those who ignore us, get angry at those who look at us in a funny way and feel uneasy being in front of a group of people.
So I guess you’re unlikely to believe someone who says that despite social anxiety you can be happy at work and give you tips and ideas as to how.
An interview with a clinical and counseling psychologist about social anxiety
- Why feelings matter
- Why we find it hard to judge what truly makes us happy
- Why a one-sentence journal can put you on the right path to happiness
- How reflection is your best friend when you want to increase your happiness and effectiveness at work
- The little-known truth why you and work don’t work
- How your attitude measures your level of happiness at work
- What are superpowers and why you need to find yours
- The myth that working on your weakness brings you workplace success
- What makes you able to do any feared activity
- What to say to yourself as a mantra to live by
- How to increase your emotional strength
- What trap to look out for that will make you be someone you’re not
- What intensifies fear
- Top tips to help you increase your happiness and success at work and lots, lots more…
Overcoming social anxiety is now possible so
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Why You Get Physical Symptoms of Social Anxiety?
- Social situations can be a trigger to feeling anxiety
- Some people experience physical symptoms of anxiety and that is because their mind is creating it
- When you focus on relaxing both your mind and body then you will decrease physical symptoms
- There is a very good reason why you have physical symptoms and if you decipher the reason you can eliminate your physical symptoms for good
Social anxiety is characterized by the fear and apprehension you feel in a social situation. Social situations refer to any situation where there are people, for instance, asking someone out on a date, going to a party, returning an item to a store, public speaking, using public bathrooms, eating and drinking in front of others or shopping in a busy store.
As you may notice all of these situations involve you, other people, and your perception of whether other people are judging you kindly or not.
Social anxiety, therefore, is the fear of feeling embarrassed, foolish or making a bad impression on others. What can happen as a result is a heightened fear triggered by your thoughts of what and how you feel you’re being judged.
So what happens if you feel fearful in a social situation?
Among the many things that happen to a person experiencing fear, one of the most common signs and symptoms that you’re suffering from anxiety, are the physical symptoms. Physical symptoms can range from racing or pounding heart, breathlessness, nausea or butterflies in your stomach, excessive sweating, clammy hands, dry mouth, and even chest pains and hot flushes.
The physical symptoms vary in intensity from person-to-person, but the treatment is the same, and that is to reduce the fear associated it with a particular situation, and this will reduce the physical symptoms. You should remain in mind that you can never be happy if you live with social anxiety.
What reduces physical symptoms?
The most common path to reducing physical symptoms is to relax your mind and your body. This is commonly approached through relaxation techniques, self-hypnosis, and even though one of the many ‘talking therapies’ such as CBT, or NLP.
If you decide to help yourself, there are many self-help techniques that you can use that will reduce your anxiety because they will give you other ways to cope in the various social situations.
Why do physical symptoms appear?
Physical symptoms appear because your mind is focused inward on how you’re feeling. And it’s as simple as that. Whenever you focus on how fearful, apprehensive, embarrassed, you may be feeling, you will increase your physical symptoms.
The obvious solution here then would be to focus on relaxing both your mind and your body by using various distraction techniques. However, your physical symptoms not only appear because you of focusing on how bad your feeling, but they are indicators of how you need to meet your own needs.
What is not common knowledge?
Most people do not realize that their physical symptoms are messages from their unconscious mind. And as an unconventional as this may seem, this is exactly what is happening. Your mind is an incredible resource of the many experiences that you have encountered so far, and how you can best look after yourself and physical symptoms appear to let you know you are off track.
Physical symptoms, why they are there
Physical symptoms are a reminder that you aren’t looking after yourself in the best way possible.
Looking at it from this perspective, you’ll notice now, that you will feel more empowered because all you have to do is decipher the messages that your physical symptoms are sending you. Once you do that accurately, you will reduce every physical symptom associated with social anxiety.
So how do you decipher the messages your body is sending you?
Ask and answer these questions
- Under which circumstances do your physical symptoms appear?
- Under which circumstances do you not experience physical symptoms, though you still experience some level of anxiety?
- What kind of thoughts is running through your mind in both the above situations?
- When have you managed to calm your anxiety symptoms down, what is you said or did that made the crucial difference?
The above questions will help you to decipher your body’s messages sent via your physical symptoms. For instance, if you have noticed that you feel anxious and then your hands get clammy when you are in a public cafe, for instance, you now have a blueprint of when your physical symptoms first appear.
Looking into this even deeper, you may also remember a time when you were in another public situation and you didn’t experience any physical symptoms.
What you may now realize is that if you are with someone with whom you feel safe and secure, you don’t necessarily feel the physical symptoms because they act as a buffer to your anxious feelings.
This may or may not be the case for you, but you get the idea.
The idea here is for you to identify what is already happening in your mind and body that produces the physical symptoms. And when you can identify a pattern, as you will also notice that you don’t always produce the same level of physical symptoms, and in some cases no physical symptoms at all, and this will help you to decipher the messages your physical symptoms are sending you.
Typical messages physical symptoms send.
- I need to calm down.
- I need a rest.
- I’m hungry.
- I’m not feeling secure.
- I want to feel more confident.
- I don’t know what to do.
- I think they may not like me.
- I’m not looking after my emotional well-being.
- I need more love and attention.
- I want to feel light.
- I don’t fit in and don’t know how to fit in.
As you can see the messages are varied and numerous. When you decipher your messages, you’ll notice that they are mostly, if not always, centered around self-nurturing and self-love.
And before you could poo, poo this idea, it has been proven over and again that what underlines your fear is a lack of self-love, lack of self-appreciation, too low self-confidence, and self-esteem.
The rules people play by that increase physical symptoms
Continuing on from the above list are some beliefs that people live by that increase their physical symptoms of anxiety. These rules include phrases such as:
“It is essential that everybody likes me”
“If someone doesn’t like me, it means that I’m not likable.”
“If I feel anxious, it means I am not coping well. “
“People should never ever disapprove of me“
“If I make a mistake, then other people will laugh at me, and this is the worst thing that could ever happen to me. “
These rules, or messages that you say to yourself, reinforce the fact that you do not feel confident or comfortable in a social situation and will increase physical symptoms of anxiety if you are not aware that you are living by these rules.
For example: In everyday situations, if you live by the rule that everybody must approve of you, even though consciously you know that this is impossible, you will increase your physical symptoms.
So this is yet another message your physical symptoms are sending you.
Why you need to pay attention:
I’ve given you a lot to think about. And it is really important that you need to pay attention to why you experience your physical symptoms. They do not happen for no reason at all. They happen because of your thinking, or should I say your faulty thinking, is taking control and needs to be more balanced.